@millers , If you were going to fit panels to the roof (200w) I would suggest not bothering with the tug to van charging system as it just added expense as your solar would do the job possibly better, but since you are going portable then a seperate anderson for fridge and van supply would be the go, just by a bag of andersons off Ebay, a mob in Melb I buy mine at 20 a time for about $25, they have stood the test of time so no need to pay $15 each and they are 50amp. just need to check though if you are gong to use 6 and 8 B&S cable then get the 6 B&S ones as the cable will fit them all and you won't have to trim cable.....
So for your fridge set up, a fridge switch fitted at the back of the fridge depending on model where and fit an anderson on your big cable and off the fridge circuit as you will have to reduce the size to hook up the fridge and it allows for easy removal if needed, mind the heater wires will feel like they are near melting when it running, a 45 amp breaker up near the battery and a 45 breaker for the tug supply to the van, I would go the D250S myself in the van and run it to the battery with probably a 35 amp fuse, the Setek I would just use its standard set up to the battery........it will draw from the battery for your 12v needs and charge when your on 240, as you won't have panels out when on 240 there will be no conflict....the fridge or van 12v supply is a good spot to piggy back power for cams etc as well....I have also run a light from the fridge cable at back of fridge once, fridge running on gas and fridge cable plugged into back of ute at draw bar, I needed a big extension lead,.....just a thought of extra use. Big Mal is 22ft.
For the portable panels since you want to use a DC-DC unit then I would run a cable from the D250s to an external anderson where you can plug in your panels, ( you may need to make a buzz bar if 2 lots of cables wont fit the D250S , so the cables go to the bar and a single run to the D250s) also Ebay has 8 B&S extension leads 10mt for $60 with plugs, perfect for panels, a mod to the panel to allow you to either plug directly to a battery via the panel regulator or plug directly to the 250s bypassing the panel regulator can be discussed later, you cannot plug the panel into the D250S via it's regulator, it won't like, it wont work anyway.
I would also add an external anderson plug with a direct fused line to the battery, this can be handy for running compressors, engel, or even an extra solar panel using its own regulator, it allows 2way flow of power, I just painted mine instead of buying some coloured plug which will only take the same coloured plug....Unless your not paying attention it isn't a problem.
My set up doesn't have anyway of charging from the tug, I have a seperate 240 charger which will charge the batteries, 200w of solar on the roof running thru a good quality PWM controller, a 120w portable which has been modded to either use its own controller or can bypass it and connect direct to the PWM in van, 2x100a GEL batteries connected up to to complete the show, this set up allows me to camp for as long as I like as we don't do van parks nowadays, no need for the tug charge system as who wants to run a vehicle for hours when camped by a creek somehow, if its cloudy for days and days I will just use the LRPS, hardly ever needed to but run it to do the washing....even if we plug into 240 it usually just runs the fridge, HWS and kettle solar does the batteries which in turn run lights, TV and STB's......
A panel will probably be only good for about 70% of what they rate them and buying off ebay is hot and miss but certainly with a bit of research is better than being ripped off from the off road/camping shops...........
With roof panels I think the need for a tug charging system is a bit of a legacy from the pre solar days, money spent on something that not really needed, if you have set up your solar properly it should charge it all, who wants to run a vehicle for hours .
Not anyway a techo description but I hope it helps, campfire speak......but it works.
Some light reading the link will lead you to other sections....
https://caravanchronicles.com/guides/how-to-connect-two-batteries-in-parallel/