@Crusty181
I'm not a Nissan engineer and probably wouldn't admit to it if I was.
Think of the tow hitch as the the balance point of all of the downwards forces on the car/van combination.
When put the wdh on and pull the bars up onto the chains you are creating a rotating force.
This force is trying to rotate the tow bar down towards the ground through the car, hence the front of the car tries to move lower. The tow ball itself is trying to rotate away from the ground, hence the front of the van tries to lift.
The wdh at the chains is trying to pull the draw bar down to the ground.
This is why the forces are so large. The wdh bar, tow bar and draw bar are all carrying forces, mostly trying to balance the various loads between their contact points.
The wdh chains and draw bar. The tow bar connections to the car. The wdh and the tow bar.
When you go forward and turn you change left to right load distribution slightly. When you reverse you cause this change to increase to a larger degree (partially unloading one side and adding additional load to the other)potentially overloading either the car or draw bar. That's why you should always disconnect the wdh when reversing.
Hope this helps.